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“The anchor in the sea of Second Adulthood is a rebellious purpose.”

--Sheehy, Passages

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Pathfinders book coverSex and the Seasoned Woman -- Pursuing the Passionate Life

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In her most groundbreaking work since Passages and The Silent Passage, bestselling author Gail Sheehy reveals a hidden cultural phenomenon -- a surge of vitality in women's sex and love lives after fifty.

Sex and the Seasoned Woman -- Pursuing the Passionate Life -- published by Random House in January 2006 -- is the story of an intimate revolution taking place under our very noses.

What is a seasoned woman?
We belong to a new universe of lusty, liberated women who are not willing to settle for the old stereotypical roles of middle age. And we don't have to!

A seasoned woman is spicy. She has been marinated in life experience. She is at the peak of her influence and power. She is committed to living fully and passionately in the second half of life, despite failures and false starts.

How old is a seasoned woman?
As Vera told Auntie Mame, "Somewhere between 45 and death." Older is bolder - a seasoned woman is more activist, more managerial and political.

How Is a seasoned woman different from her mother?
She is passionate about her work, or a cause, or in pursuit of a new dream or spiritual quest. She is more likely than at any previous stage to report reaching some fulfilling goal or dream. She is very likely to be single, to have initiated her divorce, and to enjoy a lot of sexual activity. She is comfortable with herself and not necessarily looking for remarriage.

If married, she is very likely soaring after empty nest, cultivating a new and independent identity, following her passion, and enjoying revitalized sex with her husband or romantic love in a midlife remarriage.

Gail says, "I believe you will gain the most from reading this book by joining with a group of friends who are committed to Pursuing the Passionate Life in their Second Adulthood. The women who gathered with me for group interviews found the experience illuminating and fun. Be sure one of you is a firestarter who isn’t shy, and, trust me, you won’t be able to shut the others up!

"I suggest you discuss the book by following the illustrated arc of Phases in Pursuit of the Passionate Life, found between pages 55-56.

"I hope you will stay together, marking and supporting one another’s progress."

Now available in paperback.